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Been there, done that, right?
Contrary to mainstream thinking, when you’ve struggled with weight issues for a long time, releasing the weight isn’t only about food.
It’s about your feelings.
Emotional eating is probably your biggest obstacle to becoming slimmer. As counter-intuitive as this sounds your weight issues are not due to overeating.
Overeating is the symptom. The real reason for your weight struggles is that somewhere along the way—perhaps as far back as childhood—you experienced such pain in your life that you discovered the easiest way to cope with that pain was to eat something.
Honor yourself for doing the best you can to feel emotionally safe. It’s hard to feel deep pain you think will never stop. You learned that grabbing the nearest comfort food helps you feel better. And to some extent, it does help because that sugar high or food coma stop you from feeling anything at all. Or at least, they take the edge off.
The thing is, emotional eating is a temporary fix. It doesn’t help you feel better for the long term. The feelings you push away still lurk beneath the surface, ready to erupt when you feel stressed at work, angry with your partner or demoralized when the number on the scale hasn’t moved—or, worse, moved up.
To end emotional eating and release weight permanently, you need to stop pushing away your feelings with food and instead let yourself feel your feelings. I know it’s scary to do this. When you’re triggered and feel strong emotion, it seems like you’re swallowed up by sadness, ready to jump out of your skin with fear or that your body’s on fire with anger.
You want relief. Fast. Read the rest of this entry »
body confidence, fat talk, fat-shaming, lose weight, Self-Love, self-respect
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Yuck. Not funny.
Maybe it’s because I’m a psychotherapist. I hear the painful stories hiding behind the attempt at humor. So when I hear jokes that poke fun at serious health and mental health issues, I cringe.
Our culture is so inundated with this stuff—think how many shame-inducing memes appear in your Facebook feed—that we’re desensitized to how harmful it really is. I want you to see how demeaning jokes undermine your weight-release journey, how you unwittingly join in and how practicing radical self-respect protects you from their harmful effects. Read the rest of this entry »
binge eating, body confidence, body image, emotional eating, prayer, spiritual weight loss, Weight Loss
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If you can relate, I want to tell you about a life-changing book that will help you release those negative and self-sabotaging thoughts. The thoughts that prevent you from releasing weight.
The Only Little Prayer You Need, by Debra Landwehr Engle, is a gem. Rooted in the teachings of A Course in Miracles, which is a form of spiritual psychotherapy, this book teaches you a simple process to heal your thinking on a deep level. While not specifically about weight loss, The Only Little Prayer You Need helps you create a peaceful mind so you stay strong and confident on your journey. Read the rest of this entry »
body confidence, courage, self-care, Self-Love, strength, Weight Loss
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Do you skip high school reunions because you feel embarrassed about your weight?
Do you wear only dark-colored clothes to keep attention off your body?
Are you waiting to be thinner before taking that cruise?
When you feel self-conscious about your body, special occasions and everyday life events can be intimidating. In the moment, it can feel a whole lot easier to stay hidden or stay home than to be seen carrying those extra pounds.
But think about it. Do you really want to let your weight take your LIFE hostage? Because that is what’s happening when you let it control you. Read the rest of this entry »
body condence, emotional eating, holiday overeating, Self-Love, trigger foods, Weight Loss
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Don’t worry if you’re not where you hoped to be by now. Because whatever those visible signs are telling you, they don’t reveal the whole story…
If you’ve yo-yo dieted for years, you know all too well that these progress markers can come and go. While they do measure if your body gained or released weight, I’m far more interested in the signs that mark your emotional growth.
Use the following 7 “softer” signs to gauge your overall progress this past year and as you move into 2016. If you haven’t mastered all of these, that’s okay. Think of them as stepping-stones to guide you. While not as obvious as the number on your scale, achieving these milestones helps you not only release weight… but keep it off forever. And isn’t that what you really want? Read the rest of this entry »
binge eating, boundary setting, emotional eating, Weight Loss
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Do you disregard your needs just to please others?
And does the resentment you feel about doing this send you running to the fridge?
If you can relate, you’re not alone. So many people do not learn healthy boundaries growing up. With the added demands of the holiday season approaching, it’s crucial to your health that you know when to draw the line.
Me – Boundary – You
Boundaries are the emotional and physical borders we place between ourselves and other people. They reflect how we see and treat ourselves in relation to others.
Strong boundaries are essential for your health and self-care. They support you to make good decisions for yourself. Weak boundaries support others at your expense. Read the rest of this entry »
appreciation, body confidence, diet, gratitude, spiritual healing, spiritual weight loss, Weight Loss
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Everyone gets discouraged at times. That’s okay. When you feel stuck and upset about your weight, shift your energy by saying to your body two simple words:
Appreciation is one of the most powerful forms of affirmation. Words of appreciation release an energy that strengthens and supports your body. That’s because each cell in your body has an intelligence and awareness of its own. While different from how you and I might process it, the cells in our bodies thrive on the healing energy of appreciation.
While I’ve known about the power of appreciation for a long time, I became a more enlightened believer when I learned the story of Myrtle Fillmore. Read the rest of this entry »
binge eating, compulsive eating, diet, dieting, emotional eating, overeating, Weight Loss
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So many situations come up in life that can test your resolve to eat well and in moderation: Attending a party with an abundant buffet, seeing your Aunt Sally’s Decadent Double Fudge brownies at the family barbeque, feeling so stressed at work that you think only a cookie from the lunch room will calm you down.
While you can’t avoid some triggers and food-challenging situations, you can empower yourself to shift your mindset. Action follows thought. When you make a conscious effort to change your thinking, you strengthen your resolve to proactively—and mindfully—take charge of your actions and choices.
These four powerful questions help you do that. Next time you’re triggered and about to take a bite, ask yourself: Read the rest of this entry »
body confidence, body image, emotional eating, spiritual strength, summer clothes, Weight Loss
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Not for everyone.
When you’re sensitive about your weight, a day at the beach is no picnic. The more revealing clothes of summer can pull body insecurities right to the surface.
It’s hard to enjoy summer activities when your mind is preoccupied with negative thoughts about your body. But with help from your Higher Power you can enjoy that day at the beach feeling cool, confident… and wrapped in love. Read the rest of this entry »
compulsive overeating, diet, dieting, emotional eating, emotions, feelings, stress, stress eating, stress management, Weight Loss
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Maybe you impulsively grabbed something from your pantry, binged after work by dashing through the fast food drive-thru or got up in the middle of the night to raid the fridge. Got the image in your mind? Okay, now… ask yourself:
What feeling was I trying to avoid?
When I ask my clients this question, I typically hear, “I felt overwhelmed,” “I was stressed,” “I felt bad,” or “I’m not sure.” They know they felt something intense but can’t always pinpoint it. When we explore it further they sometimes can name it, but more often than not—at least in our beginning work together—they don’t know how they felt.
That’s because emotional eating—like any compulsive behavior or addiction—comes from the struggle to know and be with what you feel.
What you do know is you’re in distress and want to feel better—fast. Read the rest of this entry »